I see your HEART and SOUL, and start with the end game and soulution in mind. When my fierce and wise owl guide turns on my night vision, this is what I see as the most COMMON CONUNDRUM that sensitive wisdom keepers and budding trailblazers get snared in:
They hold a torch in one hand, full of convictions, but simultaneously want their other hand (and often also their broken or bleeding heart) to be held and comforted by the same people they're meant to lead (which often include their families and loved ones!).
As understandable as it is to reach out for reassurance (especially when in transition, disintegrating in your chrysalis, or as a newly emerging butterfly and leader, unfurling your wings for the first time), not being selective enough in seeking it and the hurt that follows when your HAND and BROKEN HEART GET DROPPED (which they inevitably will if you lack discernment!) just keeps you STUCK IN SELF DOUBT and SELF BLAME instead of pursue the support and resourcing skills you need to take care of UNFINISHED SOUL BUSINESS. The cost of this to you and humanity is as big as Mother Trees never maturing or reaching their FULL POTENTIAL.
Natural-born leaders come in all shapes, sizes, ages, and colors. I refer to them as sensitive wisdom keepers, super empaths, light leaders, or change catalysts, and as far as I'm concerned, all ambitious women, BIPOC, and (gender) queer people who have no choice but to battle the patriarchal status quo on a daily basis to survive and self actualize are transformation trailblazers in my book.
I have helped hundreds (between the ages of 5-75!) over a span of thirty years embrace and embody their natural genius® and soul authority® at home, in their social circles, and at work—in yoga studios, counseling and therapy offices, retreat and community centers, doctor's offices, surgery rooms, research labs, university and grade school classrooms, court rooms and board rooms, business centers, art studios, summer camps, youth programs, social media and podcast platforms, and so much more. For more info about my unconventional journey and career path, click here: About Me & My Big Why page.
Leading these light leaders gives my life meaning and has been the most fulfilling and effective way for me to help course-correct the trajectory of humanity toward a more aligned and balanced way of living—in connection and harmony with ourselves, each other, and Mother Earth.
Why do I believe that the sensitive wisdom keepers I guide are a lot like the powerful and generous Mother Trees and Redwoods in old grove forests (myself included)? We’re optimally wired to serve the greater good but because of our intensity and strong convictions, we can be perceived as threatening, especially to the patriarchal status quo.
We're often the target of bullying, negative projections, pushback, and scapegoating. Because of our porous thin skin, we also absorb and internalize inter-FEAR-ence and negative energy more than most.
Our empathic super powers and propensity to lead with our big, broken, and often bleeding hearts can make it challenging to stay in our own bodies when emotions flare up. We often want to rescue, end up short-circuiting, and feel overwhelmed, depleted, frustrated, and lonely that no one does for us what we do for them. Our lack of self awareness as Mother Trees (who need to rely more on the sun and the Earth for energy than the plants they nourish and shelter) and our avoidance of conflict and clearer individuation contributes to our self-abandonment and inadequate resourcing from a greater mystical power.
For all these reasons, we are often neglected (at best) and "endangered" (at worst), especially in top positions, and lack self advocacy strategies and skills. We need and benefit from stronger self protection practices, like-minded support, soul healing, and empowerment that compliment our unique strengths, mindset, and lifestyle. We thrive when able to set fierce compassionate boundaries and use our intuitive gifts, clarity, and natural genius to stay in the flow of life and create exponential impact as a change catalyst.
Because of how we’re built, we hear the exasperated and wounded voices buried within our collective heart and soul, and we feel the ache of disconnection in our daily interactions with loved ones. Our leadership power lies in reframing what feels like intolerable hurt and abandonment as a grand invitation and opportunity to heal our collective soul loss and connect more deeply to our spiritual mission.
No matter who knocks on my door, the first order of business usually is challenging and exposing their biggest blindspot and block: Sensitivity Shame© and self-blame (often posing as social or performance anxiety, impostor syndrome, rejection sensitivity, and self-doubt). Click here for article: What is Sensitivity Shame©?
These pose a huge obstacle because LEADING WITH SOUL AUTHORITY® (and the confidence and wisdom that accompany it) requires coming out of your SHELL, cultivating SELF-TRUST (by making mistakes!), honing your SOUL AUTHORITY, and OWNING your natural GENIUS ZONE®.
The GREEN LIGHT to proceed in a new life direction or not (whether trailblazing or tentatively) can only be given by ONE BOSS and ONE BOSS ONLY: YOU! - the ULTIMATE SOLE AUTHORITY OF YOUR LIFE.
Those you are meant to guide WILL FOLLOW and GROW along with you as you shift from being a Struggling Empath to becoming a Super Empath (see below - What's a Super Empath?).
My ONE-STOP HEAL LOVE LEAD with SOUL AUTHORITY® self-mastery system is for serious and sensitive wisdom keepers, healers, and change leaders who are looking for the total package and are:
Tired of their (and other people's) BIG FEELINGS and MOODS BOSSING them around or LOGIC trying to OUTSMART their INNER WISDOM
EAGER to ELEVATE their AUTHENTIC VOICE over all the NOISE and align themselves with the POWER and CLARITY to make the BEST CHOICE
CRYSTAL CLEAR what their issues, trigger points, or patterns are, but confused or foggy what to do next to CATALYZE CHANGE
Not interested in more DAPPLING or another patch to sew on a haphazard, PIECE-MEAL spiritual practice that blocks instead of boosts DEEP HEALING
Need A STEP-By-STEP transformational system to help you take CLEAR and ALIGNED (VS BLIND) ACTION© that will offer you LEGIT TRACTION
Ready to exchange MONEY FOR MOMENTUM, LASTING RESULTS, and EXPERT GUIDANCE to save and prioritize what matters most: QUALITY TIME & ENERGY
CAL students who have WELLFLEET INSURANCE (I'm a UCD alum and have 28 yrs of experience working with UC students)
I was so lost and disconnected from my authentic self, it felt like being trapped in a house of crazy mirrors . . . for years. I longed for a glimpse of the REAL ME but after some time forgot what she looked like.
What helped me to navigate through the constant onslaught of feelings, moving parts, challenging situations, sinking news, school or work demands, and ongoing personal and relational growing pains and INTEGRATE THEM into a dynamic and exciting whole?
I re-TREE-ted© in my soul sanctuary, rediscovered my gifts and super powers with the help of my spirit guides, nature elements, and trusted teachers and stumbled into the biggest obstacle in my blindspot: my mistaken identity.
Who I’d thought was my usual self—the struggling empath—was a familiar but FALSE self. Underneath my false self was another self, my TRUE self—powerful and clear—but hardly ever reflected back to me because of my false self's confusion and internalized distortions.
That’s when I realized that my real self is the SUPER EMPATH and my false, but familiar, old self the STRUGGLING ONE. Talk about flipping reality on its head!
Wondering if you may be an empath too? Take this 2-minute free empath test and learn about common challenges that trouble the budding super empaths and highly sensitive wisdom keepers I guide to help determine if we are a good match.
AM I AN EMPATH? QUIZ
As a child, I cried at the drop of a hat. I spent hours fretting about a harsh reprimand or mean look or tone. I preferred to be alone and play in the magical Amazon rainforest that covers 95% of my native Suriname, the most tree-covered nation in the world, imagining that I was Mowgli. I wanted to write a parenting book to tell the grown-ups what needed course-correcting and told myself to "become learned" first (as I barely knew how to write).
After a military coup uprooted my family, we moved to the concrete jungles of Miami. I coped with the loss of my safe sanctuary and most trusted lifeline to my true self during the awkward middle school years by becoming selectively mute, pretending not to speak English. I taught myself how to re-TREE-t© in a inner soul sanctuary that similarly buffered me from harsh, human vibes and anchored me in my true nature.
Decades later, my rigorous studies, certifications, and 100,000+ hrs of training and professional experience in clinical psychology, shamanic practices, meditation, and mindfulness fundamentals, energy medicine, Buddhist psychology, regression therapy, eco psychology, and Depth Hypnosis quantum leaped my healing. Despite these shifts, I continued to struggle with public speaking terror (related to present- and past-life persecution trauma) and resisted stepping into my calling as a transformational trailblazer.
Supported by my dream team of spirit guides, I wrote and shared my story in Amazon Wisdom Keeper: A Psychologist's Memoir of Spiritual Awakening in 2017. Since then, I have talked to audiences, big and small, online and in person, on podcasts and radio shows, at conferences, retreats, and book stores. I'd learned so much about overcoming crippling public speaking fear that I even became a WomanSpeak (transformational Toastmasters) group leader for a few years!
These transformations have allowed me to reach and empower hundreds of other wisdom keepers and super empaths—sensitive, gifted, talented, and neurodivergent youth as well as industry experts, soulpreneurs, transformation agents, thought leaders, executive directors, coaches, psychotherapists, healers, teachers, and academics—in fields such as mental health, medicine, social justice, law, engineering, conservation, the arts, business, community organizing, cultural studies, literature, environmental sciences, teaching, research, and integrative health.
They inspired me to design my signature SOUL AUTHORITY® self-mastery system that speaks their language and hacks modern-day inter-FEAR-ence© with ease and clariity. My second book, Soul Authority: Liberatory Tools to Heal from Oppressive Patterns and Restore Trust in Your Heart Compass, emerged out of this intention and work and was published in April 2022.
FAST FORWARD TO TODAY: All the learning, the studies, the degrees and certifications, the money spent, and the 100,000+ hrs of professional experience guiding wisdom keepers who span 7 decades in age have convinced me of ONE THING.
At this time in history, our brains and intellect have gone on dangerous overdrive and are far more likely to highjack vs highlight, sabotage vs support, block vs boost, derail vs drive, freeze vs focus on, and criticize vs connect us to our body wisdom and our Buddha nature.
My mission is to reverse this trend and work with any wisdom keeper of any age who gets this and would like guidance and support how to HEAL LOVE LEAD with SOUL AUTHORITY® - NOW.
in MindBodyGreen
If you were lost in the woods, would you follow a compass that was leading you in circles? Would you stay quiet if the guide you were with insisted that their compass was more accurate than the navigational clues you were picking up from the sun, the mountains, and the current of the river?
Of course not.
And yet, so many of us don't trust our sense of inner knowing on the journey through life.
in MEDIUM
Many highly sensitive people (HSP) realize as early as in kindergarten (me!) that something is not quite right. I shed more tears than my siblings, friends, and cousins combined, and was flat-out told that these tears were ‘crocodile tears’ and not real. Why? Because they lacked ‘good reason’ — as if feelings ran on logic. In grade school, HSP like me often get teased for being cry babies. We get in trouble for being too much or too little in comparison to the norm.
in Thrive Global
The Glitch That High IQ Can't Fix
Arianna Huffington’s signature “tough-love” intervention in her 2018 Open Letter to Elon Musk brings an important point to light. Lack of genius is not the reason why Elon’s leadership abilities are lacking and under fire (called it!)
Arianna is well-known for leading Thrive Global’s wellness revolution by challenging negative cultural trends, such as the 24/7 work ethic mass delusion and lack of sleep."
in MindBodyGreen
I was born and raised in Suriname, the most forest-covered nation in the world, with 98% tree cover. "Nature Deficit Disorder"—a term that author Richard Louv coined to describe how being disconnected from nature can harm health—was not something I needed to worry about growing up. However, it plagued me nonstop after moving to the concrete jungles of Miami, attending a middle school that had no windows, looked like a warehouse, and felt like a giant freezer.
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